Today’s the day! How to be Heard: Secrets for Powerful Speaking and Listening has officially been released internationally! Why should you take notice? Here’s a short video explaining why communication matters.
One common habit that springs from the desire to be right is interrupting. This may result from speechwriting, as described earlier, but it can, and often does, arise with no planning at all—simply an overbearing desire to disagree, demand an answer or make a point now, without waiting for the other person to finish.
Speaking and listening are critical skills for anyone who wants to make a difference, as a leader, a parent, a spouse, a friend or a colleague. So… how much thought, time and energy have you put into actively developing your speaking and listening? If the answer is not much, here are nine secrets of powerful speaking and conscious listening.
I was so excited to get this in the post today! It’s looking beautiful, and I can’t wait for your copies to arrive too. For more information about the book, visit www.howtobeheardbook.com.
I receive many messages from teachers and parents about teaching listening skills to their children. I’ll be collating various resources over the coming weeks but, for now, here are some quick practical exercises.
We often “read between the lines” in communication… We analyse language in an attempt to decipher what is truly happening behind the words that are being spoken. Now this is becoming a science.
I was taught this exercise many years ago by a wise old friend named Charlie. I was bemoaning someone being in my way and Charlie put his hand on my arm. “You know, resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die,” he said. When we’re unconsciously in the habit of judging and blaming others, it can have a huge impact on our wellbeing.
Do you ever struggle to create a natural, effortless connection with your audience? This might be in public speaking or in personal conversations. The basis of creating genuine connections when you speak comes down to one simple rule: it’s not about you.
In business, in education and in any debate or argument, critical listening is often the natural place to go. It’s very powerful. It involves critical assessment of the other person’s message, often involving the little noise in your head giving a running commentary.
There is an inverse relationship between listening and upset emotions. The more upset you become, the harder it gets to listen to someone.